Comments for Love, Sex, Lifestyle Ruth Ostrow

Comment on Thinking Positive by susie walsh

susie walsh — Sat, 12 May 2012 10:08:23 +0000

Yep, definately, having a positive attitude and perspective achieves so much. Our human capacity is amazing if we only believe we can do something. Great article.

Comment on Accepting loss by nomadd

nomadd — Mon, 07 May 2012 23:23:58 +0000

I think Julia failed her daughter by not explaining the difference between living in a flat in Sydney with all the traffic and congestion and the isolated house in Wollongong.
There is a vast difference in living styles between Wollongong and Sydney and any sensible person would know this.
The mother should have also warned her daughter about the danger of trains and should never go near them.
Some parents are irresponsible in their outlook and training of children and live in the fairyland of Snow White.
Today’s world is very dangerous wherever you live, and all children should be well schooled in these events of every day living.
Anglo Saxons don’t appear to realise that far more people live in flats than in houses, and In Spain, Portugal, and France, the people prefer to live in flats. I do myself and love flat living as you meet more people.
House living can be a very lonely existence, especially today when everyone goes to work.
This is why so many older people inhabit the shopping centres every day, because nobody is home and are not available in house living life styles.
I was brought up in a smart big house in the UK and I hated it and longed to live in a flat, like the people did in France.
Guess, its all a matter of taste. However, its a changing world today and all over the world people are becoming more isolated every day.
When I was in Japan recently I went into supermarkets that had no workers. Shelves were stacked by robots and robots operated the check outs. Robots also drive the trains, no flag waving on platforms like backward Australian railways.
Yet, Japanese trains have no crashes, in contrast, human run trains in Australia are always crashing.
Quite frankly I think Julia is the wrong person to consult people grieving as her mind is bent the wrong way and lives in a fantasy world.

Comment on Accepting loss by Kim Oxley

Kim Oxley — Mon, 07 May 2012 08:12:51 +0000

We are such a judgmental lot. I began to think “how could this happen” but when you read it, there isn’t a mother alive that can contain a child every waking minute. We’ve all had close shaves with some sort of disaster – this incident is brain numbing though. Julia’s life will now be about helping people to face the unmentionable – death and loss. Our society goes to such lengths to ignore, cover up and not deal with these issues we all simply have to face. I read a useful book “Staring at the Sun” overcoming the terror of death by Irvin D. Yalom. The more we think about it, the less frightening it all becomes. Great story Ruth – you constantly hit the proverbial nail on the head – so refreshing and much appreciated.

Comment on Accepting loss by Sandra Kaf

Sandra Kaf — Sun, 06 May 2012 12:11:30 +0000

Thank you Ruth.

I also admire Julia’s courage for voicing her unconventional (in western culture at least) view of her personal tragedy.

I admire her higher level thinking, and hope to be more accepting of the natural order of things in my life too.

I was once told, in the context of a conversation about my grief over losing my father to cancer: “If you accept everything as it is, then what are you fighting against?”

Est quod est.

Comment on Don’t let life become a pain by Ruth Ostrow

Ruth Ostrow — Wed, 02 May 2012 16:56:46 +0000

Another great suggestion from my wonderful readers which I will explore. Thanks to all for your kind advices.

Comment on About Ruth by Ruth Ostrow

Ruth Ostrow — Wed, 02 May 2012 16:55:56 +0000

I will Google this at once. Thanks Roger for suggesting it to me

Comment on Don’t let life become a pain by Ruth Ostrow

Ruth Ostrow — Wed, 02 May 2012 16:55:08 +0000

Thanks so much Ruth

Comment on Don’t let life become a pain by kerrys

kerrys — Mon, 30 Apr 2012 06:21:32 +0000

I was diagnosed with bursitis (inflammation of the shoulder bursa) last November, after having shoulder pain, bad sleep etc., for months. I had also put the pain down before that, to my previous back surgery, on a disc. I gave in to a cortisone injection, which didn’t work. Everyone told me it wouldn’t. Then in February I had, had enough. I went to see a shoulder specialist who correctly diagnosed it as frozen shoulder. I had a hydrodilation, which is a cortisone and saline injection. I am now virtually recovered, and very happy. Heartily recommend it, and glad I followed up.

Comment on Don’t let life become a pain by Ruth Ostrow

Ruth Ostrow — Mon, 30 Apr 2012 00:11:29 +0000

A tough one. It’s all attitude. I am doing yoga at the moment and it is AGONY because I force myself (not recommended in yoga ) to do all sorts of hard almost impossible things with my shoulder and arms. However, yes progress. I have almost regained movement except for backward rotations. The pain has stopped except on cold days. Whenever I feel pain I keep myself so busy it is not allowed to come into consciousness for very long. But that is a very very strong commitment and belief system. If she doesn’t have it I don’t know what will create it. My mother with bad arthritis is the same, continuing as normal and living through the pain and that’s been an inspiration to me. Good luck to you both.

Comment on Don’t let life become a pain by Deborah Manners

Deborah Manners — Sun, 29 Apr 2012 23:58:24 +0000

Hello Ruth – re Frozen shoulder – have you asked your doctor about the possibility of food intolerance? It is notorious for causing inflammatory disorders which can develop into disease.
Many doctors are across this now.
But find your food sensitivity and substitute problem foods – and your inflammatory disorder will likely resolve itself quickly and without drugs. Journal references on the website.

Comment on About Ruth by Roger Lee

Roger Lee — Sun, 29 Apr 2012 08:31:16 +0000

Hi Ruth
Re your Weekend Oz article this week. I had a similar shoulder problem – could hardly lift my hand to chest height. After usual xrays/scans etc, Dr diagnosed Frozen Shoulder, said don’t expect any quick recovery, 6 months of physio, maybe an op etc. Was speaking to a friend interstate who said he also had the same diagnosis – couldn’t even do his belt up. Somebody told him about ‘Emmett’ Treatment. He reckoned one visit and he was fine. I was VERY doubtful – but willing to try anything. I contacted a well qualified practitioner and went for a treatment. I left doing windmills with both arms – and a believer in miracles! My partner could not believe it either when i came home. It may, or may not work for you – but give it a try. Google Ross Emmett and good luck. cheers. Roger

Comment on Don’t let life become a pain by f sweeney

f sweeney — Sun, 29 Apr 2012 08:15:38 +0000

Ruth,
Is frozen pain largely frozen ignorance? I had a 30% frozen left shoulder for 25 years then 50% right one for 17 years while working in SE Asia. Chinese needling and Physios (of which very few in Asia) did not cure.
Serendipitously 9 weeks ago I saw Denise, an Occupational Therapist in South Brisbane work on my wife’s shoulder after a cancerous lymph-node op and was surprised to see her method work in cracking up freezing scar tissue rapidly and asked if it was worthwhile a 77 year old cemented in ignorance try it. She said of course and sent me to a member of her “bruise” of bone creaking Oc.Therapists my near suburb. I did and 8 weeks later I am near freed-up again @ some minor pain.
Go talk to an/your Occupational Therapist, or suffer in learnt silence and ignorance.
regards f

Comment on Don’t let life become a pain by Tony Alexander

Tony Alexander — Sat, 28 Apr 2012 21:35:51 +0000

Chronic pain is something my wife deals with every day. It affects her life by limiting her movement and therefore her ability to do things, consequently the ability to live a normal life. Her condition affects me as well. There are activities we cannot do together such as going for a walk. Many doctors tell her that her pain is out of all proportion to the physical symptoms that probably cause the pain. I agree that to a certain degree we can ignore pain and just get on with our lives. A course in pain management at Caulfield hospital proved pointless because my wife refuses to accept that there is nothing that can be done cure the cause of the pain.

Comment on You can’t buy bliss by nomadd

nomadd — Tue, 24 Apr 2012 02:42:29 +0000

Ruth,

This is a good story and only too true, but it doesn’t stop people from wanting to be rich. Greed is deeply embedded in homo sapiens.

Guess we still live in the stone age.

Comment on You can’t buy bliss by Tony Alexander

Tony Alexander — Sat, 21 Apr 2012 22:23:13 +0000

You can have too much money, or not enough money or just enough money but you can never have too much happiness. I’ve never had too much money, maybe at one stage I had just enough money and these days shortage of money is a constant struggle. The experiences that make me happy such as love, achievement, success can be facilitated or thwarted by not enough money. It’s difficult to be happy if you don’t have enough money to buy food and a loving relationship can be strained and torn apart by the constant struggle to survive when money is scarce. Money is a tool to help us achieve happiness but happiness isn’t the love of money. Gina has too much money and puts too much emphasis on making more money, so I doubt that she is happy.