Nothing to Fear
Buddhists say there are only real two emotional states, Love and Fear. And that all other emotions stems from them. Which one governs you?
A WONDERFUL tale. A dear friend of mine was very worried because life was about to change in ways that were beyond his control.
The house he was renting was unexpectedly put on the market. Given his lease had expired and he was on a month-by-month arrangement, there was no stopping the wheels of change. The agent informed him that he had a couple of months to move out.
Not so easy. The house was a very basic home in an outer suburb, dark and hard to heat. But it had one major plus. The owners allowed dogs and the garden was large enough for two rather feisty ones. So he stayed and stayed. The news couldn’t have come at a worse time. With an ailing sister, and the necessity to spend several months interstate imminent, he was shaken. “No one will take me with two dogs; I will never find anywhere in a couple of weeks.”
His words are the words we tend to echo when change is upon us. Many of us come from a place of anxiety, not positive thinking – even when the change is self-imposed. Fear is a natural response to the unknown; the fight or flight hormones are surging through our veins and rationality shuts down. No one likes to feel out of control.
I gave him some advice. “There’s no knowing what the path ahead holds. You’re just as likely to find a better house and with someone who can dogsit. You might find love with the girl next door. Why make up the worst?”
And it came to pass. Last week he called. Through friends he found a renovated garden apartment in a pet-friendly block. Lovely single neighbours, lower rent, and chic location. “I couldn’t be happier,” he said.
Ironically, this lovely story ties in with my need to bid you farewell. After many years I’m finally leaving my home in the magazine and moving on to the new section of The Weekend Australian being launched next week, Weekend A Plus, which you’ll all be hearing about. Although my column will be the same, I have mixed feelings. Will you, my treasured readers, all come with me? Will I find kinship there?
Of course I know the answer. Change is inspiring and not to be feared. It’s a gift in delicate wrapping that has to be opened carefully, then embraced. I hope you do follow me to my new home.
And for those who don’t – thank you for your valuable letters and feedback over the years. I appreciate you all. Deep breath in; wish me luck…
I hope all my readers from the Magazine come visit me at my new home!
Do you fear change or embrace it? How do you cope with change?
Full story today’s The Australian